A beautiful sentiment from the novel “Strange Weather in Tokyo” expressed by the protagonist after she convinces an older man to buy a mobile phone.
“I remember a boy I dated long ago, who when we would disagree, would go straight to outright denial. Sensei wasn’t like that. Isn’t that what you called benevolence.
With Sensei, his benevolent nature seemed to originate from his sense of fair-mindedness. It wasn’t about being kind to me; rather it was born from a teacherly attitude of being willing listen to my opinion without prejudice….
This was quite a discovery for me, the fact that arbitrary kindness made me uncomfortable, but that being treated fairly feels good.“